In the best interest of a woman
Who may be my mother, my sister, my wife or my daughter!
[Note: the issue must be solved with human right angle and dignity of a woman, which the Holy Quran dose not deny]
[Note: the issue must be solved with human right angle and dignity of a woman, which the Holy Quran dose not deny]
The first time I came
in the contact with this word (Talaaq) was in 1989, when I was a student
of AMU, Aligarh. I joined JNU, New Delhi in 1990 and for many years I was not
confronted with this word so seriously. Though it kept comingto my mind in different forms and
in varied contexts.
Of late I have started
thinking about it a bit more seriously and more rationally. My outlookof viewing it has also been changed now. I think I have evolved
from a little child (son) to a brother, to a husband and to a father. Now I
have different angles to look at this issue. I sincerely thank Allah (the most
gracious, the most merciful and the only owner of the Day of Judgment) for
saving me from this curse- the curse of talaaq. But this is just
one person who is blessed with immense love and respect of his parents,
siblings, wife and children. May Allah keep showering these blessings!
Amin!. However the world is not like this. All is not well. Many of us are not
so blessed.
I am sharing my
thoughts about the Triple Talaaq issue with these
backgrounds. Before writing, I
attempted to explore my little world- contacted people in my village, tried to
get information from relatives, friends and colleagues to understand the issue-
how grave isit after all?
The cases of Triple
Talaaq are not many. I have come across only one case related to Halala and not
a single case of Khula. But my world is very smallI thereforeexplored the internet
and used the search engine called Google to expand my knowledge on the subject.
I am personally not in
favour of quick divorce. It not just affects the lives of wife and husband
but also impacts the lives of children of these couples who face problems
throughout their lives in one way or the
other . I belong to the old school of thought where one finds ways to settle the marital problems at
home for the sake of beautiful life of his beautiful children. Now don’t
ask me about the ones who don’t have. children In this condition/ circumstance,
the interest of a woman is supreme.
Each woman
counts. Even if it affects one person, we must address it. Let us
begin by acknowledging the fact that:
· Triple Talaaq is in practice
· Halala is in practice- I have come
across with one case
· Women have a right to khula but it is not in
practice- I have not found a single woman who wanted khula and got it.
No one is perfect and
everyone has some shortcoming or
incompatibility issue. Which is why I would like to reiterate that both
the people and their families must work
hard to find out the real issue and address it immediately . But in case the
only option left with the couple is that of Talaaq (divorce) I would like to
see a system (the system applicable for all the followers of Islam) which keeps
a women’s interest supreme as she suffers massively . Of course I am not
denying the fact those men also suffer.
