The Loss of honour???? Really ????

The Loss of honour???? Really ????

Is only the Rajput’s woman has the honour? Let us fight and work for the honour and dignity of all the women from all the castes, communities and races in India.

Every day women from Dalits or marginalized communities are being humiliated just in the name of their caste? Why there is no protest and dharna against khaap panchayats or similar traditional ruling classes in every part of the country?

Devdasi pratha is still being practices in some part of our country? Are these women don’t deserve hounour (just because they are not Rajput?)

Then what about the  Bandit Queen, which showed dalit woman in a very bad light on screen? These guys blood did not boiled because she was from a dalit family, hence no hounr and dignity for them?

Should they not contribute these money (which they have put for awards for cutting or chopping or killing) to improve conditions of living women of Rajasthan? Or their hounor are respect does not matter to them?

Some facts about Rajasthan women?

47 % women are illiterate

40 % girls are mother by age of 19 years

43 % girls married before the legal age of 18 years

Sex ratio is one of the worst= 893 girls: 1000 boya

Why can’t these guys fight for hour and dignity of these ling girls/woman?

Women are women. Let us not further marginalized them by dividing them into caste, community, race or religion.

Let us fight and work for the honour and dignity of all the women from all the castes, communities and races in India.

Regards,

Shaheen

Talaaq- An unresolved ssue, causing more harm to the women & family

In the best interest of a woman

Who may be my mother, my sister, my wife or my daughter! 
[Note: the issue must be solved with human right angle and dignity of a woman, which the Holy Quran dose not deny]

The first time I came in the contact with this word (Talaaq) was in 1989, when I was a student of AMU, Aligarh. I joined JNU, New Delhi in 1990 and for many years I was not confronted with this word so seriously.  Though it  kept comingto my mind in different forms and in varied contexts.

Of late I have started thinking about it a bit more seriously and more rationally.  My outlookof  viewing  it has also been changed now. I think I have evolved from a little child (son) to a brother, to a husband and to a father. Now I have different angles to look at this issue. I sincerely thank Allah (the most gracious, the most merciful and the only owner of the Day of Judgment) for saving me from this curse- the curse of talaaq. But this is just one person who is blessed with immense love and respect of his parents, siblings, wife and children.  May Allah keep showering these blessings! Amin!. However the world is not like this. All is not well. Many of us are not so blessed.  

I am sharing my thoughts about the Triple Talaaq issue with these backgrounds.  Before writing,  I attempted to explore my little world- contacted people in my village, tried to get information from relatives, friends and colleagues to understand the issue- how grave isit after all?

The cases of Triple Talaaq are not many. I have come across only one case related to Halala and not a single case of Khula. But my world is very smallI thereforeexplored the internet and used the search engine called Google to expand my knowledge on the subject.

I am personally not in favour of quick divorce. It not just affects the lives of wife and husband but also impacts the lives of children of these couples who face problems throughout their  lives in one way or the other .  I belong to the old school of thought where one  finds ways to settle the marital problems at home for the sake of beautiful life of his beautiful children.  Now don’t ask me about the ones who don’t have. children In this condition/ circumstance, the interest of a woman is supreme.

Each woman counts. Even if it affects one person, we must address it.  Let us begin  by acknowledging the fact that:

·         Triple Talaaq is in practice

·         Halala is in practice-  I have come across with one case

·         Women have a right to khula but it is not in practice- I have not found a single woman who wanted khula and got it.   

No one is perfect and everyone has  some shortcoming or incompatibility issue. Which is why I would like to  reiterate that both the people  and their families must work hard to find out the real issue and address it immediately . But in case the only option left with the couple is that of Talaaq (divorce) I would like to see a system (the system applicable for all the followers of Islam) which keeps a women’s interest supreme as she suffers massively . Of course I am not denying the fact those men also suffer. 

[Note: This article is in progress. Shaheen,  16/04/2017]

“One Person a Month” will continue in 2017

Last year (2016), I took a resolution to make an effort to meet at least one person in a month personally. This phone, the email and now the social medial like Facebook has given enough reason and means for avoiding old friends.

We live in Delhi and still we do not meet. We live in South Delhi and still we do not meet. Some of us live within a radius of 3-5 KM but still we do not meet. The reason: phone pe baat ho jaati, Facebook to ab aawaaz bhee khaagyaa. I realised this last year (probably in December/ November 2015) when one of very good friend and guide passed away and left for heavenly journey.  He was living in Vasant Kunj, which is hardly 4 KM from my home. We had several rounds of FB chats and phone calls and would promise to each other that let us meet next time. That next time never come. I shared  this feeling with Praful ji (one of our common friend from JNU), when we met at the ceremonies/ rituals after the cremation. He had the similar thought. In fact he spoke to him on phone few days back.

This was not just one.  2015 was a very sad year.  It was because of this reason,  I decided to make an extra effort to go and meet one person personally.

No programme. No plan. Just a phone call and say, I am coming to have cup tea with you today or tomorrow. Where are you and at what time should I come? Do you want to meet at Ganga Dhaba or at your home or my home or any other places of common convenience. After Ganga Dhaba, Dilli Haat, INA had been the most preferred venue of such meeting. I had a  plan for meeting 12 old friends only but I met more than 30 people. 

It was so refreshing, reassuring and giving more reasons to make this world more beautiful for the people living around you.

This is just a kind reminders for my friends that I am coming to meet you- when and where will be decided on phone calls.  Today I am going to meet Praful ji

Wishing you a very happy New Year 2017.

LET US MEET AND HAVE A CUP TEA

With warm regards,

Shaheen
January 7, 2017