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Sunday, April 16, 2017

Talaaq- An unresolved ssue, causing more harm to the women & family

In the best interest of a woman
Who may be my mother, my sister, my wife or my daughter! 
[Note: the issue must be solved with human right angle and dignity of a woman, which the Holy Quran dose not deny]

The first time I came in the contact with this word (Talaaq) was in 1989, when I was a student of AMU, Aligarh. I joined JNU, New Delhi in 1990 and for many years I was not confronted with this word so seriously.  Though it  kept comingto my mind in different forms and in varied contexts.

Of late I have started thinking about it a bit more seriously and more rationally.  My outlookof  viewing  it has also been changed now. I think I have evolved from a little child (son) to a brother, to a husband and to a father. Now I have different angles to look at this issue. I sincerely thank Allah (the most gracious, the most merciful and the only owner of the Day of Judgment) for saving me from this curse- the curse of talaaq. But this is just one person who is blessed with immense love and respect of his parents, siblings, wife and children.  May Allah keep showering these blessings! Amin!. However the world is not like this. All is not well. Many of us are not so blessed.  

I am sharing my thoughts about the Triple Talaaq issue with these backgrounds.  Before writing,  I attempted to explore my little world- contacted people in my village, tried to get information from relatives, friends and colleagues to understand the issue- how grave isit after all?

The cases of Triple Talaaq are not many. I have come across only one case related to Halala and not a single case of Khula. But my world is very smallI thereforeexplored the internet and used the search engine called Google to expand my knowledge on the subject.
I am personally not in favour of quick divorce. It not just affects the lives of wife and husband but also impacts the lives of children of these couples who face problems throughout their  lives in one way or the other .  I belong to the old school of thought where one  finds ways to settle the marital problems at home for the sake of beautiful life of his beautiful children.  Now don’t ask me about the ones who don’t have. children In this condition/ circumstance, the interest of a woman is supreme.

Each woman counts. Even if it affects one person, we must address it.  Let us begin  by acknowledging the fact that:
·         Triple Talaaq is in practice
·         Halala is in practice-  I have come across with one case
·         Women have a right to khula but it is not in practice- I have not found a single woman who wanted khula and got it.   

No one is perfect and everyone has  some shortcoming or incompatibility issue. Which is why I would like to  reiterate that both the people  and their families must work hard to find out the real issue and address it immediately . But in case the only option left with the couple is that of Talaaq (divorce) I would like to see a system (the system applicable for all the followers of Islam) which keeps a women’s interest supreme as she suffers massively . Of course I am not denying the fact those men also suffer. 


[Note: This article is in progress. Shaheen,  16/04/2017]

Friday, January 06, 2017

“One Person a Month” will continue in 2017

Last year (2016), I took a resolution to make an effort to meet at least one person in a month personally. This phone, the email and now the social medial like Facebook has given enough reason and means for avoiding old friends.

We live in Delhi and still we do not meet. We live in South Delhi and still we do not meet. Some of us live within a radius of 3-5 KM but still we do not meet. The reason: phone pe baat ho jaati, Facebook to ab aawaaz bhee khaagyaa. I realised this last year (probably in December/ November 2015) when one of very good friend and guide passed away and left for heavenly journey.  He was living in Vasant Kunj, which is hardly 4 KM from my home. We had several rounds of FB chats and phone calls and would promise to each other that let us meet next time. That next time never come. I shared  this feeling with Praful ji (one of our common friend from JNU), when we met at the ceremonies/ rituals after the cremation. He had the similar thought. In fact he spoke to him on phone few days back.

This was not just one.  2015 was a very sad year.  It was because of this reason,  I decided to make an extra effort to go and meet one person personally.

No programme. No plan. Just a phone call and say, I am coming to have cup tea with you today or tomorrow. Where are you and at what time should I come? Do you want to meet at Ganga Dhaba or at your home or my home or any other places of common convenience. After Ganga Dhaba, Dilli Haat, INA had been the most preferred venue of such meeting. I had a  plan for meeting 12 old friends only but I met more than 30 people. 

It was so refreshing, reassuring and giving more reasons to make this world more beautiful for the people living around you.

This is just a kind reminders for my friends that I am coming to meet you- when and where will be decided on phone calls.  Today I am going to meet Praful ji

Wishing you a very happy New Year 2017.
LET US MEET AND HAVE A CUP TEA
With warm regards,

Shaheen
January 7, 2017 

Friday, November 25, 2016

Minutes of the Meeting on Access to Education for Children of Minority (24-11-2016)

Minutes of the Meeting on  Access to Education for Children of Minority (24-11-2016)
A small meeting was called to raise the issue of the lack of Muslim participation in the National Campaign for Right to Education and the role of Muslim organizations and networks in increasing Muslim community involvement in education. It was sought to be emphasized that the involvement of every section of Indian society was needed to demand an education system from the State that was State funded, inclusive and equitable, an education system that was not led by the political ideology of the times raising but one which remained neutral, apolitical and scientific at all times. The RTE Act, 2009, promises such an education system and therefore its full implementation in letter and spirit by the State is imperative. The RTE Forum monitors the implementation of the RTE Act, 2009 operating on a campaign mode. An education system that swayed with the political ideology of the ruling political party tended to give rise to education quality and inclusion issues.
The idea to have such a meeting was initiated by Naaz Khair in consultation with Navaid Hamid. Navaid Hamid, the President of Majlis-e-Mushawarat, offered to host the meeting at the Mushawarat office. It was attended by representatives of a few Muslim networks and interested individuals. Names of the participants are listed at the end of this report. Majlis-e-Mushawarat is an apex body of Muslim organizations. These are a mix of political, apolitical, social, religious and educational organizations with extensive community outreach.

Participants at the meeting discussed Muslim education issues and the issues of Muslim community led organizations, while exploring possibilities of Muslim networks and organisations working together with the RTE forum:

·         The participant from Muslim Education Trust (MET) said that the Trust is involved in extensive work with thousands of minority educational institutions. However, since the RTE Act came into force, a conflicting situation had developed between schools exempted from the RTE Act and those that had not been exempted. There was a need to take everyone along while working with the objectives of the RTE forum. The educational concerns of minority educational institutions are not in variance from the objective of the RTE Act. 

·         Small private schools or learning centres: There are almost 17000 such learning centres catering to more than 5 lac students. One third of these learning centres are Muslim managed.  There is a need to acknowledge the contribution of these learning centres and extend official recognition to them. The RTE norms for private school recognition cannot be applied on these learning centres, which are much smaller in size. Closing down educational institutions with sizeable population of children studying in them is not a solution. 

·         Sharing of experience by Chandrakanta from CSEI of sustained advocacy with the RTE Forum to ensure the Forum’s involvement around Article 12 (1) c of the RTE Act as this provision aimed at the creation of inclusive schools in the long term through sensitization of students from better off backgrounds when they came in contact with EWS and DA students.
·         Muslim children are grossly under-represented in the RTE quota seats in private schools.

·         Only a small section of Muslim students study in minority educational institutions and an even smaller in fact miniscule percentage of Muslim students go to madarsas. Predominantly, Muslim students depend upon government schools for education.

·         The longstanding issue of lack of adequate number of government schools in minority concentrated districts/blocks was (Muslim majority areas within these) was raised. Even if there are schools, many of them are not located within the stipulated distance of 1 Km from the Muslim inhabited areas. The RTE Act provides for school mapping. There is an urgent need for school mapping to be undertaken in Minority Concentrated Districts.

·         Need to study minority budget: Minority budgets are reducing in key educational areas including scholarships. Within Minority budgets those allocated for Muslims are not in sync with the development needs of the Muslim community- e.g. of Uttar Pradesh where huge budget was allocated for the fencing of graveyards. Budgets for Muslims are also frequently diverted and budget utilisation is also very poor leading to smaller size budgets for Muslims over time. 

·         There is no dearth of NGOs in the Muslim community. However, involvement of the Muslim community in the social sector is considerably weakened on account lack of funds with Muslim support organizations to capacitate the Community led organizations. There is almost no initiative on the part of mainstream civil society actors to strengthen the programmatic and organizational aspects of these organizations.

·         Jamia Nagar/Okhla is the hub of Muslim organizations operating in the state of Delhi and in some other states as well. It will be critical for the Delhi RTE Forum to align with these organizations and vice-versa.

·         There is a need for Muslim organizations/networks to align with the National RTE Forum as well as with the Delhi state RTE forum and vice-versa.

·         Muslim organizations operating on their own fear the threat of backlash from vested interests on  using RTI to monitor government programs.

·         The Muslim community needs to be a part of the political movement for a strong National Public System of Education funded by the State. It is a curious phenomenon that Muslims are missing from almost all mainstream institutions- e.g. of Gandhi Peace Foundation was given. While it is said that Muslims and Gandhians are natural allies, today at an institution like the Gandhi Peace Foundation, Muslims are virtually absent. Muslim organizations will have to proactively join mainstream movements. Civil society also needs to introspect on the near lack of participation of Muslim organisations in mainstream movements and initiatives.

·         The status of Muslim education is very poor. Education of Muslim girls, particularly in the rural areas, education of children from backward Muslim communities, overall emphasis on education of Muslim children in rural areas, education of poor Muslim children in urban areas, Muslim children out of school, etc, are areas that need to come on the agenda of Muslim organizations and the RTE Forum on a priority basis.

It was proposed that a meeting takes place between RTE Forum members (at least 15 participants) and representatives of key Muslim networks and Muslim organizations based in Delhi to take forward the discussions initiated in this small meeting. The 17th of December has been proposed for the meeting.

Names of Participants
1.      Navaid Hamid- President of Majlis-e-Mushawarat
2.      Mozaffar Ali- Education Representative, Muslim Education Trust
3.      Arman Ansari- Swaraj India
4.      Mohd. Shadab- SIO Delhi
5.      Yasir Atiq- SIO Delhi
6.      G. A. Qadir- Hamdard Delhi
7.      Abdul Rashi Agwan
8.      Shaheen Ansari- Arkitect India
9.      Salma Khatoon (Phd)- Jamia Milia Islamia
10.  Chandrakanta Bharti- CSEI Delhi
11.  Naaz Khair- Freelancer, Education, Social Sector, Delhi




Prepared by Naaz Khair

Saturday, October 29, 2016

Listen to your inner voice, follow your heart and don’t ref regret later


"Listen to your inner voice, follow your heart and don’t ref regret later" This is what I felt when I heard the news that my Grand Mother (Nani jaan) passed away this morning (29th October 2016). I had been to Varanasi several times in the last 6 months. My home (Ghazipur) is about 75 KM (2-3 hours drive) from Varanasi. Whenever I talk to my mother, she would ask me to visit home. But I would promise her to visit during the next time. I had a desire to meet my Nani jaan but I did not know this ...  Now I can also say that ‘tomorrow never comes’. I had not met my Nani jaan for quite a long time. And now, I will never be able to meet her again as she has left this world for heavenly journey.

inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajioon
May her soul rest in peace


You never know what is next.  So if such desire comes to your heart and if you can manage to fulfill it then please do not postpone.  Because “tomorrow never comes” 

Shaheen
29/10/2016

Thursday, September 29, 2016

Good Morning & Have a Wonderful Day

Good Morning  & Have a Wonderful Day

There are many reasons why you should start the day with a liter of water.  But I am going to share a few selected one, which I experience every day. I start my day with a 1 liter of water.  And I strongly recommend to experiment  it.  In the beginning it is quite taxing and challenging as one may have to go to  wash room frequently for some days or weeks- till you get used to it and make it regular habit.  But that is the way body flushes out toxins.

So for healthy, happy and a strong person, it is important  to start the day with 1 liter water. When you wake up after a long sleep, your body is naturally dehydrated. No matter how much water you drank the day before, you have used up your stores and it’s time to refill the tank.

The first thing drinking water after waking up will do is provide your cells with much needed, life giving water. And you will be
 [1] Feeling more refreshed
[2] Having more natural energy throughout the morning
[3] Being healthier & happier

Anther important reason
After nourishing your cells, drinking water after waking up will flush unwanted toxins out of your body.  While you sleep your body repairs itself, replenishes energy and balances hormones. The result is toxins and other waste materials being released and waiting to be flushed out.
After clearing your body of these toxins,  you will feel great and be able to absorb more nutrients from a well-balanced breakfast.

Here’s a fun fact; your brain is 75% water.  If you’ve been drinking enough of it, you will know that without water your brain is not going to function at its optimal level.

And above all, It is s completely refreshing. So let us not waste this beautiful time (morning time) of the day with denying to experience beautiful feeling. It is spiritual, it is refreshing, it is beautiful feeling.
Enjoy it.
Don’t waste it
Life is beautiful, make it more beautiful with natural way.

One more thing:
It is also one of the secrets behind a glowing skin, as water removes the toxins from the blood. Drinking water also improves the creation of new blood cells as well as muscle cells, and helps you in losing weight. Also, make sure not to eat anything for a while after you drink water in the morning.

HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY

Reg
Shaheen
September 30, 2016


Source: Written by me with some facts from Internet




Monday, September 05, 2016

Happy Teachers' Day

Happy Teachers' Day
On the teachers' day, the only teacher coming to my mind is Pandit ji (Government Primary School, Kataila Village, Ghazipur). What I am today is because of solid foundation of primary school teachers. There were 4 teachers in my primary school and all of them were wonderful person. Many childhood friends could not study after primary school because there were not upper primary schools in my village.
I was not the best student in my class/ school but I could do better because my parents decided to send me to a school far away from my home/ village but my other friends could not get that opportunity. An opportunity to get access to school can be a great change maker in a life of a child. At least I can see from my own experience.
I can still see many villages do not have upper primary school and I can still see many children not completing even 8 years of school.
India is full of talent and the talents are in villages. They are being unused/ wasted just because we are not able to send these children to school.
I wish every child get access to 14 years of schooling in India.

Shaheen Ansari
05/09/2016

Sunday, July 24, 2016

Death Knows No Age & Gender


Two years back my sister (5-6 years elder than me) left us and now her 18 years old son also joined her in her heavenly journey. He was ill for quite a long time but 18 years is too early for a child to leave this world.


While coming back to Delhi I was struggling with lots of questions and answer in train. Death is the only truth which every one (believer or non believer/ Aastik Or Naastik) knows but do not wants. No one has escaped the death and, we all know, no one will escape it either but look at ourselves. How we live. What we do. As if we are here forever.


The fact is that no one wants to die. Even those who are certain of going to heaven, also don’t want to die. Probably Death is the only discovery we all tend to ignore.  


In the train to Delhi, one question very often stuck me. And it kept coming frequently till I reached Delhi. Death knows no age and gender. If no one can escape death, then why don’t we do preparation for it?.


I don’t know what does it mean to prepare of the death but I guess it should be to be nice and humble and do what is right.


It is a difficult task but smaller than death to do what is right, do what is just and do what is going to bring positive change in the lives of most marginalized section of our society.


Just a thought
Shaheen

July 25, 2016